Half and Half

As of late I have been in this good mood because I made the decision to focus more on myself and not on other people and put myself first and kind of put everyone else on the sideline. I do believe that I have been too nice to people in the past and they now take advantage of that which may benefit them for the time being but what does it say about ones character in the long run? Not too much. Yes being there for someone is all a part of being a good friend but you cannot do it forever especially when you see no benefit for yourself.

Of course the fundamentals of any type of relationship whether it be a relationship with family, friends, or spouse.....communication is key. You cannot have a successful relationship with someone without expressing how you feel about things, reaching out to your partner to let them know you care.....let them know that you are there.

That is kind of in the situation I am in right now, I want to date someone and like most relationships after the initial excitement things certainly slow down but if you go from 0 to 60, and then down to 10.....damn, what is that??? Relationships do not thrive when you think about your spouse only when it is convenient.

When you decide to date someone there is a sort of unwritten contract where you are both accepting the fact you are in each others lives and you should at least try to make time for that person regardless. Out of 24 hours in a day what is 20 or so seconds to let someone know you are thinking about them? If one doesn't have time to be in a relationship with someone why drag it along...communicate and tell them you do not have the time. You need that equal balance to survive or else you fall off.

When will we all learn that one sided things don't function??? We never succeed at anything halfway, you must give your all to succeed.